How does your voice sound? Is it enchanting? Exciting? Does it make people hot? Does it liven them up at all? Or does it just push people away?
Let me tell you, a nice voice will penetrate a person's ears, tickle their brain, and then goes straight down to their, mmm, nether region. A not-so-nice voice will make a man or woman want to get away... away from the source of that horrible noise they keep hearing!
First, people associate different things with different voice tones. You can tell if someone is angry, happy, or anything in between by the tone of their voice alone. Certain voice tones, regardless of what is being said, will calm a human baby or a wild animal equally well. Your voice tone can communicate the exact opposite of what your words are communicating. For instance, when you're sarcastic, this will be transmitted through your voice tone. The nature of your communication, whether it's meant to be hurtful, or to be playful, is also transmitted. There's never a time your voice tone isn't independently saying something... about not just what you mean, but also, about you.
Second, voice QUALITY and voice FLEXIBILITY often directly reflects the QUALITY OF YOUR THINKING and the FLEXIBILITY OF YOUR MIND... and the quality of your thinking and flexibility of your mind both have a very direct impact on your behavior, and thus, your success and fulfillment in life.
Ever notice people with muffled, constricted or thin voices? How pleasant is it, in general, to be around them? How successful do they tend to be?
Likewise, ever notice those with full, deep, resonant voices? Voices that are flexible and wonderful? Now, how pleasant is it to be around them? How successful do these people tend to be?
Not only do the voices of successful people tend to be full, but their pitch also tends to be low. Even the voices of successful women, like Barbara Walters, are lower than average. I'm sure there are complicated reasons for why this is, but really, think about it... lower, deeper, more even voices communicate more authority, more power, more everything... they're just better for the purposes of success and irresistibly.
Let's just summarize by saying that your voice makes a world of difference to your success in this social world. If your voice quality is foul, your life probably isn't as good as it could be -- it may, in fact, suck. If your voice is wonderful, your life will at least be on the right track to being wonderful, if it hasn't gotten there already.
To help you put a little more life into your voice, and thus a LOT more EVERYTHING good into your life, I'm going to share a few voice secrets with you.
How to do it
The most broadly effective voice technique that I've found is almost the most alarmingly simple.
I've gone through many voice lessons -- in person, and on books and tapes, etc. But the easiest voice secret I got was from a professional radio announcer. I actually skipped over using this technique for years, thinking that the more complicated vocal methods I learned must somehow be better... more powerful. I now readily admit that I was a moron for doing this. You should really commit to trying what he does.
Apparently he (among others in this profession -- perhaps even ever resonant Howard Stern!) will hum for about 30 seconds before going on the air... so before their show, and during the break, he's humming... at least for a short while. And, man, it sure does make a difference!
Never mind endless crap about your diaphragm, and this muscle and that vocal do-ding-it. A commitment to something as idiot-simple as humming will radically open your voice up over time.
Humming, you see, automatically achieves a lot of the desired outcomes of other advanced vocal techniques. Humming makes you breathe full, deep breaths. In fact, it requires good breathing. The more air you're able to push out, the more powerfully you'll project your voice and it's resonance. Repetitive use of humming also makes your voice sound more steady, calm and self-assured, while simultaneously lowering it's pitch.
One benefit to humming is that you need relatively no intelligence to perform it. Anyone can hum. Even if you do so poorly at first, it's impossible not to get better, as long as you commit yourself to doing it.
Many vocal techniques are so complex, that I seriously believe that most vocal coaches think you have nothing else to do with your life. Obviously, such techniques are useless for someone who wants to be actively irresistible, instead of tied up doing inane vocal rituals, as you grow old and die.
Try to get your hum to vibrate your mouth, neck, and chest… this will open up the most resonance, and make your voice sound sexier to the opposite sex… because your voice will start to resonate them!
Try it before your next date... before you make a phone call... before anything.
Here's an extra secret about humming that I discovered while researching the topic. It's actually been scientifically proven that humming, through it's vibrating, makes some of the glands in your brain produce and release more happy-making chemicals. That's right, it brightens up your mood and personality! Cool, huh? Now, why humming doesn't also induce the creation of more sad-making chemicals, I have no idea... but since it works the way it does, it's just all the more reason to hum!
Hum, and whole world will hum with you... er, that's not right. No.. but the upbeat mood that will usually result from humming will indeed effect those around you... which will lead to wonderfully positive results for you.
While in the car, don't just sing to the radio, but hum the parts. Hum the 'bass' (the part of the music you can feel, but aren't percussive like drums). Hum the vocals. After you've hummed the vocals for awhile, only then try singing them -- and see if there's a marked difference in the sound and resonance of your voice. If there's not, go back to humming the words for awhile.
I have another idiot-simple extension to this secret. It's a secret within itself, a powerful way to make the powerful secret above even more powerful, by giving you immediate benefits. With it, you'll be able to make your speaking voice more deliciously resonant on command!
Now, avoid hesitation. Do the following exercise... right now... AS YOU READ IT.
First, Hum. "Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm"
Next, open your mouth while humming. Your open-mouthed hum might now sound more like an "ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh".
Next, speak while humming... "Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmahhhhhhhhhhhhh [HOLD THE HUM AND SAY] hi, how are you?"
right. Blur the hum and your words together...
And keep doing it:
"Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmahhhhhhhhhhhhhhi, how are you?"
You're now humming while you're talking. And, god, it's a pretty easy way instantly add resonance to the words you speak, now isn't it?
Can you feel how much more resonant -- more kinesthetically delicious -- your words are, when you hum while you talk?
Practice this with different phrases. And practice speeding up the process to just a few seconds, so you can use it anywhere to give your vocals a rev-up. Eventually, if you get the feel for what your muscles, vocal chords, and breathing are all doing while you hum, you might be able to instantly evoke this effect without humming.
Well, either way, it's a great way to penetrate through people's resistance. You'll now be GIVING THEM A MASSAGE, AS YOU SPEAK. Talking with you will now be so much more... addictive... irresistibly addictive! Wow!